When it comes to wedding planning, things are bound to get a bit stressful at times. With so many details to plan and things that can go wrong it's not surprising that so many brides feel anxious and stressed on their wedding day. It's important to remember that the wedding is just one day and the marriage you are entering into is what's going to last. So on your wedding day, stop and think about what's important in the end and the reason you are having a wedding in the first place!
1. Take Time for Yourself. Whether you spend 10 minutes in the morning to sip some coffee quietly and think about the day ahead, stretch or do yoga, write in your journal, sit and mediate or simply take a few deep breaths when you get out of bed - do something for yourself before all of the wedding excitement happens. It's going to be a long day!
2. Reflect On Your Relationship. Take a moment to think about how you got here. How did you and your fiancé meet? What drew you to him/her? Remember the day he proposed, your first date, the first time you introduced him/her to your friends and family. Appreciate how far you've come in your relationship together and how much more you have to look forward to from this day on!
3. Go With the Flow. Even though you have been planning this day for months and spent hours working on putting all the details and final touches together something is bound to go wrong. You can't plan for everything especially the unexpected - a surprise guest that didn't RSVP, cake that doesn't get delivered on time, a bridesmaid who had a little too much champagne, rain that suddenly appears in the middle of summer - anything can happen. There is only so much you can do and only so much you can control. Whatever happens try and be flexible and don't let the little things ruin your big day!
4. Drink Water and Have a Snack. From the moment you wake up you will be pulled in so many directions until it's time to walk down the aisle. As you prepare for the day and for the hours leading up to your vows, remember to drink plenty of water to stay hydrated and snack whenever possible to keep your energy up. Have your wedding planner or one of your bridesmaids help bring bottled water, fruit, cheese and crackers, granola bars, cookies - whatever snacks you may like - and have them available while you are getting your hair and make up done. Try to sneak in a few appetizers as well during the cocktail reception as you are being rushed off to take photos! Don't miss out on all that great food you are paying for, It may be a while before you are siting down for your lunch or dinner at the reception.
5. Stop and Take it All In. After the vows have been exchanged, the rings are placed on your fingers and the kiss seals the deal take a look around. Look at everything - the people that came to celebrate and support you, the gorgeous venue, beautiful flowers, your wedding party, your parents, the decorations, the delicious meal, the music - and most of all your adoring spouse. Don't let the day go by without looking at every single detail and enjoy this moment. This is where your new life begins!
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Bridal Faires (aka Wedding Faires or Bridal Expos) are a great way for newly engaged couples and brides-to-be to see the latest fashions and trends in the wedding industry and start thinking about ideas for their own wedding. Anything you could possibly want or need for your wedding can be found at a bridal faire!
I highly recommend attending at least one bridal faire for the experience alone if you are a new bride. Grooms-to-be are welcome to attend, however the majority of attendees are women. Many new brides enjoy sharing this experience with their mother, mother-in law-to-be, sister, friend, or wedding planner. Typically they are held in a large hotel ballroom or hosted by a wedding venue. They usually last somewhere between 3-4 hours and there can be anywhere from 50 to 200 vendors lined up in highly decorated booths with table displays showcasing what they have to offer. Many are there to offer show attendees discounts and promotions and usually have some sort of gift bag or take away that includes their business information and small gift as a thank you for stopping by.
To find a bridal faire in your area you can do a search online. Many are posted to social media such as Facebook and Twitter, however Here Comes the Guide, Wedding Wire and the Knot are all wedding based websites that list bridal faires across the country. You can usually search by state or zip code to find one near you. If you are thinking about attending a bridal fair, here are some tips that will help you navigate your way through it all!
1. Dress comfortably! Wear comfortable clothes and shoes! Comfortable walking shoes are a must as you will be walking and standing for hours. If you are like me and tend to get warm when there are crowds of people in one room, dressing in layers is a good idea. No heavy coats or sweaters! You will get too hot and all that extra material will weigh you down as you are trying to maneuver your way through the crowds of people.
2. Bring a bottle of water and a snack! Keep your energy up, you will need it! You’ll be so excited and anxious to see everything you won’t want to stop to find food. I definitely suggest eating something before you go and always bring a piece of fruit, trail mix or protein bar and bottle of water to get you through the day. It may be a while before your next meal. Most of the time however, caterers will be there with samples of their food for you to try so always take advantage of that when possible! You may end up liking one of the caterers so much you’ll book them for your wedding!
3. Take a friend! Bridal faires are great for newly engaged couples but often times the grooms choose to stay home. No problem! Grab a friend, sister or your mom and enjoy an afternoon of wedding planning together! Make a day of it and plan to have a nice breakfast or lunch before or after.
4. Take lots of pictures! Bring a camera or take pictures on your cell phone of anything you want to remember later. You might see some flowers you are considering for your bouquet, table centerpieces or maybe a certain table decoration. There will be a lot to look at and absorb so take as many pictures as you need to. This will allow you to go back later and remind yourself of everything you saw.
5. Stay for the fashion show! Most bridal faires have a fashion show where you can sit around a runway and watch men, women and children model the latest fashions for wedding gowns, bridesmaid dresses, tuxedos and children’s attire. This is a great way to see what kind of gown you might want to wear or to pick your wedding colors for your bridal party. It’s also a chance for you to take a break and sit down after all the walking you just did!
6. Collect information! The bridal faire organizer will usually hand you a bag when you arrive. As you go around collecting business cards, brochures and goodies that the vendors will be handing out, put them all in your handy dandy tote bag so you can be hands free all day! Collect as much information as you can. You won’t have a lot of time to read through everything right then and there. Take what you want and go through it later.
7. Sign up for raffles and prizes! Bridal faires are a great place to snag wedding deals on just about anything from flowers, cakes, gowns, tuxedos and even a honeymoon! Sign up to receive discounts and prizes whenever possible. You never know – you could be the winner of a dream dress or trip to Hawaii!
8. Ask questions! Don’t be afraid to ask a lot of questions. The vendors are there to help you decide how you want to plan your special day from beginning to end. Take advantage of the one on one time and find out what they have to offer you. The more information you have, the better decisions you will make!
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Brenda Cali is a professionally trained Wedding Consultant and plans a variety of social and corporate events.