Are you planning a wedding on a budget? Does it feel like everything costs more than what you expected?
Maybe you've already gone over your budget trying to have the wedding you've always dreamed of and getting concerned about all the extra charges on your credit card statement.
Believe me, I can relate! But you're not alone. I have spoken to many couples who are facing the same dilemas.
One reason for this is that most couples set a budget but don't have any idea how much weddings actually cost. Or they have a basic idea of what a wedding costs but are surprised when they actually start getting quotes and seeing how quickly things add up.
The second reason this happens is because many couples don't understand how to identify their wants and needs. It is easy to get caught up in thinking you need to have a Pinterest worthy wedding.
With so many beautiful wedding images flooding the internet and social media, it is easy to try and immitate what you see on your computer screen. But that simply is not realistic and it can cause problems for your wallet.
The best way to identify wants and needs is to discuss the important parts of the wedding and things you actually need to make the wedding happen.
For example, a location, food, tables and chairs, an officiant, etc. Create a budget for the things you need and see what you have left over for any "extras" - the wants.
A good rule of thumb is:
If it doesn't enhance the overall experience of the wedding day you don't need it.
Your guests will remember a few things about your wedding - the food, the music, dancing, and spending time with friends and family making memories.
Smaller personal details such as programs, favors, welcome bags, or a personalized cake knife are nice but it's the overall exerience they will remember.
(Nice to have but not necessary)
Ceremony arch or backdrop
Gifts/welcome bags for out of town guests
Guest book cameras/film
Unnecessary lighting (monogram/gobos/pin-spotting)
Multiple forms of music/live entertainment
Excessive amount of candles or other decor
Rose petals down the aisle
Elaborate dessert displays
Late night snacks
(Necessary to make the wedding happen)
Bartender/ Service Staff
Cake / Dessert
You may have noticed that flowers and videography are listed under the wants section. That is because in my opinion I don't believe they are necessary to make a wedding successful.
Adding flowers to the overall aesthetic isn't always necessary depending on your venue. Personal flowers for the wedding party should be included in your budget, however, flowers for your centerpieces can be optional. If your venue is already surrounded by a beautiful landscape you may not need them.
Wants and needs can be tricky. It's important for you and your partner to discuss what the most important aspects are to making your wedding day truly special and unique to you.
Taking time to identify your own wants and needs early in the wedding planning stage will save you a lot of time and money in the long run.
Be sure to check out our blog page for more ideas and inspiration!
We had an amazing time working with Susan and Frankie for their wedding at the Madonna Inn in San Luis Obispo this past October. Susan and Frankie hired me later in the planning stage and wanted help executing their vision. When the day arrived everything came together so beautifully and was exactly what they dreamed of.
Their wedding had so many fun details that showed their personality and style. Some of the highlights were the fall inspired moody color palette, the velvety smooth bridesmaid dresses, the dinosaur bride and groom cake toppers, and the custom neon sign hanging above the sweetheart table.
But the best part had to be seeing all the smiling faces of friends and family, and feeling all the love and joy surrounding the happy couple the entire day.
A huge thank you to our vendor team who helped make this day happen. We couldn't have done it without you!
Venue/Catering/Cake: The Madonna Inn
Floral Design: Kaleidoscope Flowers
DJ: DJ "G" Cue
Photographer: We the Blackwells
Planning & Coordination: Gatherings for Good Events
If you haven't been to the Madonna Inn be sure to stop by on your next visit to the Central Coast! It is truly a one of a kind experience!
And if you are planning a wedding connect with us through out website or on Instagram, or head over to our wedding page to learn more about our wedding planning packages and services!
We'd love to hear from you!
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Brenda Cali is a professionally trained Wedding Consultant and plans a variety of social and corporate events.